After seeing your newly born baby for the first time, you may be feeling overly joyed, ecstatic, thankful, worried, and even depressed. Postpartum Depression is one kind of depression. It usually occurs to women who have just given birth. Science explains that this phenomenon happens naturally because of hormonal changes which the body finds it hard to adapt.
After childbirth, moms are expected to be deprived of their sleep and undergo a lot of tiresome activities that lead to stress, panicking, anxiety, and often turn into depression.
How Does Postpartum Happen?
As a mom, it is really not like rainbows and butterflies. It was more than what I have always imagined. I was never informed that I had to go through so much when in fact, everything was just starting.
Becoming a mom puts you into a situation where you have to choose between things which things are to be regarded more. When I first had my baby, I knew it was gonna be hard, so I prepared for it until I knew that I should have been prepared for more.
Becoming a mom is a dream for every woman. However, the first three days I had after childbirth was confusing. I felt happy, sad, anxious, mad all at the same time. I thought that it might be a sign of postpartum depression.
“Depression is a disorder that develops from environmental and biological issues that are unique to each person.” –Deborah Serani, PsyD
I underwent a c-section which made it harder for me to recover, At first, I was not producing any milk and thus, made me panic like never before. Days passed, and I started producing milk, but I’ve always felt anxiety glaring at me.
I was starting to doubt myself. Honestly, I started questioning everyone else around me. I felt nervous even though I had nothing to worry about. I felt angry just because I wanted to be one. I felt sad and depressed. I was baffled. I don’t know what or how I was supposed to feel. I figured that I am lost.
Enduring Anxieties And Depression
The most difficult journey I had so far being a mom was maybe the first six months after giving birth. The roller-coaster emotions really got into me. I even thought that I may have started losing everything.
Ut all the dark days started shining. I found my strength amongst the people around me. I became open to them about how I felt and surprisingly, they have given me all the patience that they have.
It started with my partner, I told him that I was not myself and that I find it hard taking care of our baby. We discussed things, and he told me to try asking my doctor about it.
I did, and I was told by my doctor to get all the support that I may need. She told me to be very open about my thoughts with the persons I trust most and remind me that most importantly, I should help myself to recover and transcend that stage of my life. Now I understand Marjie L. Roddick, MA, NCC, LMHC when she said, “Your environment, both your social and natural surroundings, can greatly impact how you feel.”
I decided to give my baby all the attention that she needs. I changed the way I thought about life. No matter how I felt the anxiety and the blues, I gave my all to let it all out and gave my baby the attention that she needs.
“We only have control of ourselves and our own desire for growth and change. Part of that growth and change is deciding the type of person we allow in our lives, and the positive impact they can have on us.” Nikki Martinez, Psy.D. LCPC. I was lucky that I had my family with me all through the journey and that they are still with me to this day. But I learned that what matters most is how I should have put my mind to positivity and talk about my feelings with all honesty.
Don’t underestimate the power of asking people around you for support. I’m sure that they would all be more than willing to help you overcome every uneasy feeling. Moreso, to defeat depression.