Worrying or having fears is just part of life. No matter how much you try to avoid these things, there will always come a time when you feel uneasy. Do not worry because this is only normal. However, excessive worrying can be dangerous on your part. This is the primary reason why it is best to set an appointment with a psychiatrist so that you can determine whether or not you have an anxiety disorder. Be sure to remember the signs and symptoms of effective treatment.
Depression is not a state of mind but a mental health sickness that needs immediate attention. When a person is clinically diagnosed with depression, it is essential that you know how to deal with her properly. There is a necessity to be careful with whatever you do or say whenever she is around. In this article, we are going to list down some of the words or sentences that your depressed wife must never hear from you. Remember that some things are better left unsaid especially if they will cause harm to your partner.
One of the things that you need to remember when it comes to caring for your husband is that you must know his struggles and problems. It is essential that you motivate him in opening up to you, especially during a time when he experiences a loss in the family. Take note that no matter how strong your partner is, he will always feel a little low when someone in his family dies. Below is a list of the things that you can do to help your partner in this difficult situation:
We all know that depression is a mental illness. It is something that gets rooted in extreme emptiness and isolation. The condition is something that we usually misinterpret as sadness. It draws us away from everybody as it grew bigger and bigger. That is why a lot of therapists aim to assist people with depression’s adverse effects. However, are we sure enough to understand all the things about depression? Are we sure that we can immediately identify its signs and symptoms by just looking at someone? Well, perhaps we should entirely look closely into it. Here are the things about depression that not all of us can see.
It Can Hide In A Happy Face
The primary physical description of depression is a sad and gloomy face. It is where we experience a prolonged and unstable emotional aspect, which reflects in our facial expression instantly. However, not all depressed individuals show it openly. There are those people who can hide their emotions by showing a happy and cheerful vibe. These are the ones who master the art of controlling their emotions for the perfect use of facial deception. But it does not mean they are manipulative and liars. Some of these individuals are just lucky enough to keep hold of their fear and sadness into their selves. Admittedly, it is not a gift. It takes a lot of time, practice, and a hell of traumatic experience to be able to self-contaminate unwanted emotions. “Loneliness is an epidemic, We’re the most socially connected society, yet so many people experience extreme loneliness.” psychologist Amy Sullivan, PsyD. said.
It Lasts Forever
Contrary to what others believe, depression has no cure. Once we have it, there is a tendency that we might suffer with it forever. However, that does not mean we can’t do something about it. There are a lot of things to try every day that will keep the mind and body away from the mental condition. And yes, those methods only keep us busy. The truth is, there is no definite certainty as to when and where we will experience depression. It occurs at any time of any day. That is even if when we think we are in the most exceptional circumstances that we are currently at. Same goes to its schedule in leaving our lives. We can’t control it from coming in, and we can’t quickly get rid of it even if we want to. That is the primary reason why we seek out for professional help. Because according to Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC, “Depression is a serious and tricky illness. Unfortunately, it can also go unrecognized for a long period of time”
It Does Not Follow Rules
Depression is something that changes almost everything in our lives. It does not spare anyone, not a child, not a teen, not adults: genuinely not anyone. When it strikes, it intends to hurt us. It does not offer a pause or a rewind. Its main reason for existence is destruction. That is why a lot of depressed people often end up hurting themselves. Some of them condemn people, while others take their lives and commit suicide. However, in some providential cases, other individuals use it as motivation. These people are the lucky ones who can turn things upside down with the help of the mental condition. Unfortunately, these significant people are limited.
It Does Not Make You Stronger
“Depression is more than an emotion or a state of mind, it is really a process. It is a combination of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.” Robert Allison, MA, LPC said. As much as we want to stay certain, we think that depression makes us stronger. That is because inside its elements are both bad and good thoughts that we can use to handle things around us. But honestly, depression is far from being a helpful motivational tool. Depression kills us inside and out. When people say that it makes you stronger, that is a lie. It does not support any of your mental health at all. Depression exists only to give you a massive amount of self-doubt, lowered self-confidence, isolation, sadness, anxiety, and stress. And if you have not noticed, the mental illness supports your weakness, vulnerability, and incapability in dealing with the challenges in life.
It Grows Naturally
When we are depressed, we feel life is in its worse case. We begin to realize that we need significant improvements and all that. There is this sense of acceptance that the mental condition appears because it is normal. But it is not. Depression grows bigger and bigger because we feed something to it. We let it have what it wants from us. We allow it to grow fundamentally where we often end up embracing it and longing for it. We stay and stick to it because we think that its existence means something into our lives. That with depression by our side, we can work our way out and recover from emotional and mental damage. But then again, it is not like that.
Understanding depression may vary from one person to another. People might not agree with how others may describe it, but it doesn’t matter. What matters is all individuals should find a reason not to let it be in control.
And now it’s out. Your teen is suffering from depression. With that, as a parent (or a family member), what can you do? Here are some valuable tips to ease your teen’s “excess baggage:”
Depression already proved it exists so many times as it took the lives of people we never thought could and would end their lives. Robin Williams, Kate Spade, Chester Bennington, and Anthony Bourdain were among successful people who lived in wealth and fame. However, these were not the only things they had in common. They all suffered depression. Their passing shocked the whole world as many of us ask, “Why?”
Now we know that depression is something that can happen to anyone – wealthy and poor or young and old. Kurt Smith, Psy.D., LMFT, LPCC, AFC used to say, “Depression is different from passing sadness or temporary frustration with life’s issues. There are number of common signs for depression and they tend to be persistent.” That’s why it is not okay to ignore someone who says, “I’m depressed.” Yes, many of us may misunderstand being sad or problematic to being depressed, but if we genuinely care about a person, it wouldn’t matter if it’s depression or not. The fact that the person opened up to us is enough to make us responsible. We have the moral obligation to do something because someone is crying for help, may it be serious or not.
People who suffer depression do not normally say “I’m depressed” because they would hide it as much as possible. They would act strong and happy that it wouldn’t show that they are going through something tormenting. However, it doesn’t mean you have to ignore people who say they are depressed. It is not for you to say otherwise.
What You Should Do When Someone Tells You “I’m Depressed”:
You Should Be Present
You need to be there for someone who says, “I’m depressed.” If he asks to meet up, then you should go. Whether it is depression or not, he told you his feelings because he trusts and depends on you to lessen the weight he is carrying. Remember that we do not call just anyone to be there for us when we feel sad or down. We call someone we know would make us feel better. “Be supportive and let them know it is not that you think something is wrong with them, but that you want them to have some help with their current challenges. Sometimes, people who are depressed want help but don’t know how to get started.” Vara Saripalli, PsyD suggests.
You Should Listen
It doesn’t matter if you find his thinking shallow. No matter the nature, cause, or reason for his sadness or depression, he is still affected. That is enough reason for you to acknowledge his feelings. You don’t get to say it is nothing or immature even if it is. You are never in a position to invalidate someone else’s feelings. Doing so is a like saying you know better.
You Should Give Advice
It is not necessarily advice but a confirmation that someone acknowledges his feelings. If there’s one thing a sad or depressed person needs, it is the sense of not being alone. He needs to feel understood and validated because he may think that he is hopeless and helpless. The best advice you can give is to tell him to seek professional help.
“Depression is not a weakness of character, laziness, or a phase. Tough love, like telling someone to ‘buck up’ or ‘try harder,’ doesn’t work, and worsens the illness.” Deborah Serani, PsyD said. We should never ignore someone who says, “I am depressed.” These three words are a cry for help, may it be depression or not. Many lives have already perished without anyone having a clue, so if someone opened up saying he is sad, down, or depressed, it is our accountability to make him feel that there is hope.
Although mental health has been a hush-hush topic until recently, a disorder like depression has often been easy to acquire for people of all ages. If a person gets laid off work and cannot find a new job after months of applying here and there, he or she tends to clam up and lose their confidence. In case someone experienced heartbreak for the nth time, he or she may question his or her lovability and cry over the broken relationship in the bedroom for days.
Although there have been many studies conducted about depression as a whole, studies on general symptoms that could be seen in people, and especially how it manifests in daily situations, people suffering from depression still experience it in unique ways. We aren’t going to talk about causes, symptoms or treatments, but instead, try our best to know and understand teen depression in its purest and most relatable forms.
The feeling of sadness and hopelessness is normal to everyone. It certainly is not right to say that there were people who were lucky enough to possess the things they needed to be happy. If there’s one thing that you should keep in mind once you get out of your room, it’s that all people come from the different walks of life.
Depression doesn’t heal overnight. It cannot be cured by over-the-counter medicines, band-aids or even surgery. The healing comes from the person himself/herself and the people around him/her.
Whether it’s for you or for the people you love, it’s better to familiarize yourself with the early warning signs of depression. Most of the people who are not aware of the modern-day mental health issues equate depression to ‘just mood swings.’
- Feeling Of Sadness And Hopelessness
A common manifestation of a looming depression is the feeling of sadness and sense of helplessness. One becomes irritated most of the time and even feels hopeless for the future. One suddenly becomes pessimistic, even to the point of crying without any apparent reason. “Feeling hopeless often leads to anger in men as opposed to the lethargy that can manifest in women. As a result, depression in men can be particularly hard to spot sometimes because it doesn’t look like we think it should.” Dr. Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC said
People experiencing depression, however, are very good at masking their emotions. This symptom is not easy to spot on any person other than yourself. People who suffer from this and decide to keep it for themselves are most likely to develop severe depression.
- Feeling Of Guilt And Self-Loathing
Indeed, this is one of the most typical telltale signs that depression may take over a person – he/she starts blaming him/herself for a fault done. It’s normal that self-blaming becomes the emotional response to some. But, if it already affects your behavior, the chances are high you are already suffering from depression.
- Trouble Concentrating
Depression can take your focusing abilities away. A person’s memory and attention span lessen during this hard time. This problem also severely affects one’s capability to make sound decisions and good judgment.
Check yourself and family members if there are recurring times of misunderstanding at your house or at work. If the disagreement arises from you or loved one’s lack of attention and difficult comprehension, then this may be a sign of depression.
- Loss Of Self-Confidence
Often, comes with self-blaming is the loss of confidence in one’s own ability and skills. As mentioned, depressed people develop a pessimistic outlook on life. Generally, they have lost the will to believe what more they can do.
If you’ve noticed yourself or any loved ones manifesting shyness or lack of confidence, maybe it’s time to do something before depression take control of you or your loved ones’ everyday life.
- Finding ‘Immediate’ Ways To Cope With Sadness
People suffering from anxiety and depression abuse alcohol to numb their system. Some, however, put all their attention to work as a form of escape. They may be staying up late behind their office desks or laptops to gear their swirling emotions away. It’s like tricking the brain to act busy most of the time. But Lisa S. Larsen, PsyD believes that “When people are given a supportive environment and a safe relationship, they can let down their guard and heal.”
- Decreased Energy Levels
Looming depression eats one’s energy. Usually, you would have the spirit to do everything at once. Taking a warm shower, fixing your hair, trying all the clothes just to see which one fits the best – all are done in no time especially if in a hurry.
However, when one is going through depression, only the most vital activities after waking up are done. Furthermore, these activities are done slower than the usual.
- Body Pains And Aches
Poor appetite is also a manifestation of depression which, in turn, can cause physical aches. Changes in weight is one of the effects brought by emotional factors. Frequent digestive problems without apparent underlying reasons can also signal depression.
In this modern world and generation, millennials suffering from depression enter the social media either to find help anonymously or share their thoughts about life silently. Don’t take these for granted, even if it’s just for you. Depression is not a cycle that will go away eventually. Simon Rego, PsyD says, “mental health disorders are real, significant, and common. We need to do a much better job of looking out for people with depression, educating the public to take them seriously and to understand how important it is to get connected with a licensed mental health professional for help. Because great help exists, if people are willing to seek it out.”